Why Are You Jealous?

Jealousy, the infamous green-eyed monster, has the power to destroy so much in its path. Despite knowing that it needs to be defeated, why is it so difficult to slay this dragon? Jealousy takes without giving back, leaving a void in its wake. The real question is where does jealousy stem from and why does it persist? And most importantly, how can we lead a life that celebrates both others and ourselves?

Jealousy often arises from being a victim rather than a player in life and a lack of self-investment. Not knowing oneself and failing to have a clear vision can fuel jealousy when comparing oneself to others. Watching the show "Feud" about the rivalry between Hollywood legends Joan Crawford and Bette Davis highlighted how jealousy can consume even the most talented individuals. Instead of fostering a friendship that could have elevated both their careers, jealousy robbed them of joy and potential. Most of all as they faced challenges as they aged they could have come together and changed a male dominated system for the next generation, and in the process they would have experienced love and friendship instead of loneliness and grief.

The following season of "Feud," focusing on the seven swans and Truman Capote, reinforced the destructive nature of jealousy. The women involved, who should have celebrated their successes, lost themselves to mediocrity by reveling in others' failures. Taking pleasure in someone else's downfall is a hollow victory that reflects a lack of faith in oneself and life.

To combat jealousy, it is crucial to cultivate unrelenting enthusiasm for others, even in times of disappointment. This requires a deep understanding of one's values and a commitment to choosing paths that align with those values. Comparing oneself to others or resenting their achievements only hinders one’s own growth and success.

Ann Landers had a great quote, “Hanging onto resentment is letting someone you despise live rent free in your head.” In other words jealousy and resentment serve as self-imposed punishments that detract from one's greatness. Choosing to be genuinely happy for others and celebrating their successes not only uplifts them but also nourishes the soul.

In a world dominated by technology, one way to set yourself apart and stand out is by rejoicing in others' victories and empowering them to recognize their worth. Respecting others' values, being mindful of one's words, and offering support and encouragement are vital in fostering meaningful relationships. Acts of kindness, such as sharing knowledge and checking in on loved ones, can have a profound impact on both the giver and the recipient.

While jealousy may be a natural human tendency, it is ultimately a choice how to respond to it. Transforming jealousy into celebration can lead to a more fulfilling life, where one's dreams are pursued with enthusiasm and energy. By embracing a mindset of celebration and support, not only do we uplift others, but we also open ourselves up to receiving positivity and success from the world in return. Remember, you have the power to choose how jealousy affects you, and transforming it into a celebration can lead you from being ordinary to extraordinary.  

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